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Choosing a career path

Your career path is yours to determine
Your career path is yours to determine

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

At a very young age I remember playing different roles (teacher, business woman, dentist, and housewife) with my school friends, and although each of us played a different role every time we met, I really believe that the roles we held during playtime are a significant element in highlighting our dream jobs or career aspirations. We may have found ourselves acting as the doctor treating pretend sick playmates or the school teacher controlling the class of mischievous children in the past but the values held during play time show a great deal about what was important for us in a career during childhood. A career for us at that time was more of a dream that resembled the lives of those who we knew and admired.

As we grew up the definition of a career became more and more related to academic subjects. We may have found that we enjoyed chemistry as a subject in school and hence sought out a career path that incorporated chemistry e.g. pharmaceutical studies. Whether we enjoyed chemistry because we were good at it or because we liked the teacher has little relevance as the end result would still be that a field related to chemistry would determine our career path.

For some people however, a career path was chosen for them by their parents, family or society. They may have become doctors because their fathers had that dream for them or engineers because of their mothers’ wishes. They may have chosen a business major so that they may join their family business when their hearts were truly in art and architecture. Gradually they may have found a passion hidden in what was chosen for them or they would have discovered what would be their true passion along the way. Whether or not they take action on pursuing this new passion requires courage and strength. This is very true when so many barriers are put in place against such decision such as a family member, money, prestige, society expectations etc. Therefore not many end up taking that courageous step of stepping into the unknown and following their passion. Only those who find the strength to take that step may find fulfillment at work.

The main thing to point out is that whichever way a career path is chosen; it could change at any given time during our lives as our priorities change or as our interests change. There is nothing wrong with wanting this change if it will serve our life purpose and will place us more in line with our passions but it is necessary to be in a place of no regrets before embarking into anything new. It is necessary to take the learning from every decision we take and the experience it gives us. It is also necessary to hold on to a chosen career path if it fulfills us and helps us grow. It is necessary to be brave and fight for what we want and it starts now regardless of our age.

To sum up, careers are chosen because of:

1. Passion –knowing the impact we want to have on this world and choosing a career that will honor that.

2. Inspiration – looking at a role model (e.g. father, sibling, famous artist) and deciding to replicate their lives into ours.

3. Experience – picking a career based on the accumulated experiences we gain during our early lives.

These choices shape up a major part of our lives and who we are. How did you choose your career path?

Layla Alqassab
Coactive coach (in training)

An act of kindness

Even the smallest of things can make a difference if done kindly
Even the smallest of things can make a difference if done kindly

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

A while ago my husband fell sick and as a treat I promised to buy him his favorite pasta for dinner. The place that makes the pasta actually allows you to pick the ingredients of your pasta by telling the chef as he cooks what to add. Therefore it all depends on what you pick and how cooperative the chef is.

As I queued in line to order the pasta I noticed the man in front of me having a hard time ordering his pasta because it seemed the chef was really uncooperative with him. He asked for a number of additions to his pasta and the chef just seemed not to give him what he asked for. So at the first glance I assumed the chef was being nasty but as I closely observed the man was actually making horrible remarks to the chef and was still insisting on adding more ingredients to the pasta despite his unkind behavior.

Initially I assumed that the chef would treat me unkindly too since it clearly seemed he was not in a good mood and that I would end up with a lousy pasta. Then I shifted my mindset. I put myself in his shoes and imagined if I were him. The chef may have been going through a bad day, his job my not have been giving him what he needs, maybe even he was going through some family problems. On top of that a customer was being unkind to him. Why would he go the extra mile for someone like that. I did not know the man but for all I knew he was the one in need of kindness and I wanted the perfect pasta for my husband.

As I started the order, I asked the chef how he was doing. I asked and asked kindly about the way the ingredients were prepared and praised the chef for ensuring its freshness. I ensured the man had a smile on his face before I began my order. The chef just went over and above the expected when it came to preparing the pasta I was ordering. That pasta was one of the best pastas we ever tasted and my husband really did get a good treat.

So what I realized is the following:
– Sometimes we expect certain results based on appearances but we can be wrong
– An act of kindness – even a smile – can go a long way
– People are nice but they need to be treated with respect before they show respect
– We can get a lot more if we only thought a little bit more about what others needed

Layla Alqassab
Co-active Coach (in training)